The science of redesigning your personality

For years, Olga Khazan, a staff writer in Virginia at the Atlantic, knew that he had a major problem: he had great hate from his personality. “I was constantly worried about everything,” she said. “Just never living in the moment. And I really didn’t like to have anything to have anything with other people. I didn’t talk.”

How can she work in a party? “I will stand away from myself, and honestly, sometimes, like, like, read articles on your phone or not attached originally,” that laughter.

Not surprisingly, many people did not want to join with treasure, either. “A person said to me a pressure, that I was obsessed to work, and just as much as possible, and never took a minute to appreciate life,” he said. “One person told me that she was afraid of me when we worked together.”

In particular, when she conducted a personality test four years ago, she was away from the chart – from the way – neuroticism, or negative emotions … not that she did not try to find help: “It was in medicine all the time,” said Khazan. “I took different medicines. I did yoga. And I did all the things of self-care. Nothing was really working.”

Disappointed, Khazan designed to do something more radical: he vowed to re -design his entire personality. “I decided to spend a year to change my personality symptoms,” he laughed.

Professor Shannon Sareer-Jwal described someone’s personality “described your specific way to think, feel and behave. This is how you think about your behavior and how you work.”

I asked, “I always assumed that once you reached a certain age, your personality was your personality?”

“This is really, I think, is the prevailing way to think about personality, but it does not line up with our science,” Syre-Wows replied.

Personality science is his specialty, and his research at Kentki University can be a game-changer on how we reach mental health issues. She says that data tells us Is It is possible scientifically to change your personality, and that, with correct intervention, can become introverted extrovert … sloppy people can get natters … Slaockers can achieve ambitions … and worried people can learn to calm down. “To treat people with anxiety disorders in about 20 years, I have seen dramatic changes in 12, 16, 20 weeks,” Sayer-Javala said.

Phase is a basic personality test, which asks such questions: “I sometimes manipulate people what I want.”

The next step is forcing yourself to act opposite to how you will do normally. If you are shy, talk. If you are dirty, make a bed.

Sauer-Zamavala said, “When we deliberately change our thinking, our feelings and our behavior, and we maintain those changes over time, we are essentially changing our personality. We are changing the way we are going to fill those bubbles on personality questionnaire.”

“So, you consciously adopt the behavior of the personality you think you want?” I asked “You make it easy.”

“It’s not easy,” Sawyar-Jwal replied. “Theory is simple, but execution is difficult.”

This Olga Khazan was not easy for lifelong introverted. Among other strategies to deal with his social anxiety, he enrolled in a improvised class with total strangers … completely something outside his rest area. “I was very, very scared,” he said. “Probably for the first three or four months what I had done, my heart was really beating in my chest, and I was deeply uncomfortable.”

Did he scare him about it? “I didn’t like to look silly!” That laugh.

Murphy McHug, who was a worn teacher of Khazan, said, “For me, it was a life -changing thing to do the doodle. I opened it socially. I became a better listener, a better ally.”

He said that Khazan continued to enter the classroom, he saw the change in it: “Relaxation, slightly less than the cross-health body language. You see someone resting, you see their shoulders falling. You see them laughing, and come into views with an idea.”

Along with the improvisation, Khazan meditated, sailed, took conversation classes, and laid a magazine, as she describes in a new book, “I, but better: promised to change science and personality.”

He said, “Jernling kind of jernaling helps you focus on some more positive elements of your life, if you are very deranged, you forget or forget this kind of glow,” he said.

I asked, “Is this a case fake it til you make it,

“Yes, it’s fake that it makes you make it,” said Khazan. “Because if you think about it, then anything is fake if it feels new, right? Anything that you are not used to doing is really unnatural feeling. But the only way to make it natural is to do it again and again”

“And just include who you are?”

“Absolutely.”

Today, Khazan is happily married to a 14 -month -old child. He was once so disliked for that personality, he said, “I think I am a different person today than three years ago. I think I really have a different way to live my life, and getting closer to problems, as I had done before.”

So, what is the advice to see Shannon Syro-Jwal with a completely unsatisfactory personality? “Not to get caught in a personality-type box,” she said. “Think about the life you want, and then know that you can deliberately develop the symptoms that will facilitate that journey for you.”

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Story created by Emil Vesisogel. Editor: Ed Givenish.

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