‘This will matter a lot to the parents of Northern Ireland’

Women who lost pregnancy before 24 weeks have said that a child’s loss certificate would be a powerful symbol of verification for the grief passing through the parents “.

Currently in Northern Ireland, the death of a child after 24 weeks has officially recorded a stilging, but there is no formal recognition of loss before 24 weeks, As in England,

The Finance Minister has said that his intention is to launch a similar plan in Northern Ireland Before the end of the year And a public consultation seeking ideas from the bereaved parents received more than 540 reactions.

He is eager to hear from more and more people as possible, Before closing in September.

This article includes the theme and pictures of the child’s loss, which can disturb some people.

BBC News NI has talked to three bereaved women about their experiences.

Cyelina Casey was inspired to install Cyelina Casey from County London The white butterfly foundation Other parents to help when he found that lack of support was after his loss.

Celina’s story begins in February 2021, when she was pregnant with her third child.

She arrived for an appointment in 18 weeks, “Just assuming that everything would be grand”, but it was reported that her child had no heartbeat.

“I was told: ‘You are going to take the medicine and coming in and distributing it to your son,” he said.

Three days later, he sent his son to Coseway Hospital after 12 hours of labor.

“I left the hospital with a sheet the next day,” he said.

Her charity was established by the bereaved parents, for the bereaved parents, for the bereaved parents.

“I remember I am leaving the hospital and feel that I had nothing to remember my child,” he said.

She said that her child has a grave, but she has “no certificate for her and there is nothing else to say that she was here”.

He said, “These certificates matter a lot to the parents of Northern Ireland.”

“It’s not that we ever want to have a hierarchy of sorrow, but there are different emotions that come in different stages of pregnancy loss. In earlier stages, before 24 weeks, feelings of being invalid, feelings of being invalid,: ‘I do not have the right to mourn here’.

“Parents may feel silent.”

She always tells the families: “Please don’t stop talking. We always want to talk about our child and if they are named, call them in their name.”

Since the opening of the foundation, there have been referrals every day with health trusts and those self-reference.

While she wants the certificate to be brought soon, it is a “large -scale positive step forward” and, hopefully, a “stepping stone” for more support in all trust areas.

Liah O’Hara “welcomes 100% certificate” but agree that they are just a step in getting more support and legal recognition.

County Down holds a nurse from Bangore, her husband James and daughter, eight -year -old Maihala.

After three early disadvantages of pregnancy, last year he and James lost Baby Jacob in 22 weeks.

“He was born, I gave him birth and there was nothing to recognize him that he existed – he was a child – but he was born two weeks before the cut -off, “he told BBC News NI.

The family was able to bring him home for five days.

“Lack of recognition affects your grief. I was so angry that our child was not recognized. You just want to tell his name and story.

“We have the only certificate for Jacobs a cremation certificate.”

Lia hopes that the certificate will be a step towards this issue, which will be spoken more openly.

“Sometimes such damage is ignored because people have not met the child or do not know the child – but you know the child.

“It is very pity for a child already loving.”

Chatting for other mums in a group founded by Lurgan-based charity Forget a little i don’t believe have helped.

“Talking to those who resonate with me and just know how you feel, it’s amazing.”

Mylah has benefited from his program for brothers and sisters.

“She was struggling with the fact that everyone had brother -in -law in school and she did not know how to mention her brother.”

Lewis Taylor established the charity from Portdown in County Armagh and said that the certificate plan is “so much needed”.

He said goodbye to his son, Ruben 10 years ago, and when supported, it was not the support he felt that he needed.

“Everything was so dark and so sad,” he said.

“I really needed to help find out a way to find light again.

“I had another little girl at home and I was struggling with her parents. I was back to work, completely oblivious that grief was consuming me.”

Now she is “using this darkness” to help other families “.

Five years ago, when her father asked her to handle the Family Funeral Directing Business, she wanted to include charity support.

“I could not process a child to say goodbye to a child and help a parents to say goodbye to the child, then left them in the community,” he said.

“When someone comes through the door, we have helped them say goodbye, in a few months we pass for charity on the baton so that the family is not left to go to the forest anywhere.”

The programs “lead the parents-led, shock-in-law and support these mummies and dades in the dark”.

One such group is for mams, using crafts, which “while mixing it with an element of understanding keeps the hands busy with how our brain is processing it”.

“The most important thing is to tell them that it is fine if they feel so and other people around this table feel like this.”

His team is expected to roll a similar group for the father.

Lewis said that he would like a certificate 10 years ago.

“This is about validating the grief of these mumi and dadies – putting it in the stone that this wee person was present,” he said.

“I don’t think people realize what a woman does to say goodbye to her child.”

In England, there are plans for parents Experience abortion before 24 weeks of pregnancy, which deserves mourning leave.

The women said that they would like to see similar coming in northern Ireland.

“I recently talked to a woman who has had many abortion and was asked to provide her medical evidence,” Celina said.

Lia has stopped work since the heart breaks up to lose baby jacob.

“If Jacob was born after two weeks, I would be entitled to maternity leave,” she said.

She also wants to help for self-employed parents like her husband.

Women will also support the subjectively implemented certificate scheme.

Lia said that she would get four certificates.

“We didn’t name our other infants – as they were before 12 weeks but a loss is a disadvantage.

“I think it will help in many families by dating back.”

The scheme will be open to the parents who have experienced a child’s loss in the first 24 weeks of pregnancy.

Counseling It lasts till 12 September.